Yesterday, someone said to me, "Skinny people scare me, no offense." And that I needed to eat more. I understand he was joking (in a way), and I don't remember exactly what the conversation was about that he said that, but needless to say I was flabbergasted at his comment and analysis of me, and skinny people in general.
It made me wonder, if I were fat and instead he said, "Fat people scare me, no offense, but you need to eat less." Of course, he wouldn't have. Because that would be offensive and hurtful. But why do people think that commenting on a skinny person in the same manner is not hurtful? That it doesn't create a sense of rejection, regardless of one's weight?
I had one lady say that she runs skinny people over in her car...again, how would she have felt if I said I run fat people over in my car?
Or to be looked at up and down and asked with a sneer, "How do you stay so skinny?" And again, it made me want to return the stare and ask, "How do you stay so fat?"
I don't understand why people think that it's not harmful if you make a derogatory comment like that to a skinny person. It's not less hurtful. Whether one is skinny or fat, we are all still people and just want to be who we are without any judgement placed upon us.
It just really bothers me, and those comments make me feel as though I have no leg to stand on regarding the emotions they generate. "Oh you're skinny, get over it." But we all still have the same feelings.